As ACAPcommunity launches a monthly blog — just in time for the holidays when we are most likely to be with our loved ones — we thought you may be interested in these conversation starters for your mom and/or dad. The questions offer a meaningful way to learn more about our parents. Coming across the article after recently asking my 96-year-old mother several similar questions, I look forward to exploring more of these topics with her. Hopefully, you also will find the questions help facilitate important conversations with your parents.
— Frances S. Hall, Co-founder, ACAPcommunity
Conversation Starters: 20 Questions to Ask Your Parents
©2015 AgingCare,LLC — Marlo Sollitto, Contributing Editor
We care for our parents every day, in the most intimate of ways. But how well do we really know them? Our parents are the most familiar people in the world but also, sometimes, the most mysterious. Who are they as a person? What were they like when they were growing up? What experiences most impacted their lives? What were their hopes and dreams and regrets?
As adults, so many of us don’t ask enough about our parents. Yet there’s no better way to become closer to a person, even if you’ve known her all your life. AgingCare.com has gathered the questions that our elder care experts and editors would most like to ask their own parents. Try them out for yourself. You might gain a new perspective on your parents – and learn something about yourself.
- In what ways do you think I’m like you? And not like you?
- Who is the person who influenced your life the most?
- Do you have a lost love?
- Which new technology have you found most helpful in your life…..and which is most annoying?
- Is there anything you have always wanted to tell me but never have?
- Is there anything you regret not having asked your parents?
- Do you wish anything had been different between us, or would you still like to change anything?
- What was the happiest moment of your life?
- What are you most proud of?
- How did your experience in the military mold you as a person?
- What are the most important lessons you’ve learned in life?
- What is your earliest memory?
- Did you receive an allowance? How much? Did you save your money or spend it?
- Who were your friends when you were growing up?
- What was your favorite thing to do for fun (movies, beach, etc.)?
- What was school like for you as a child? What were your best and worst subjects?
- What school activities and sports did you participate in?
- Do you remember any fads from your youth? Popular hairstyles? Clothes?
- What world events had the most impact on you?
- How would you like to be remembered?